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Several theories about how birth order affects people's personalities have been laid down and examined. A few of which have been considered valid for numerous reasons. Below is a summary of Adler's theory:

First born/ Only child:

• are in danger of acquiring perfectionistic or people-pleasing behaviors as parents set high expectations for them.
• tend to be quite confident, controlling, diligent and mature.
• over-achievers, though not all.
• they are guided by a need to do the right thing and strives to make a difference in society.
• also experience being de-throned when younger siblings come along.
• like being the center of attention.
• often has difficulty sharing with siblings and with peers.

Middle born:

• may develop great social skills and have an easier time growing up with an other-centered point of view.
• knows what he or she is doing and tends to become very intelligent in their efforts to gain attention from siblings.
• usually quite talented, and their quest for perfection against their siblings can lead them to discover new and unlooked-for qualities, musically, academically, and theoretically.

Last born:

• is viewed as the party animal, the entertainer who is unafraid to test his or her luck.
• an endearing, delightful friend.

These qualities vary of course; they do not apply to every person in this world. We are unique beings, with different strengths and limitations. Thus, we need not have to rely on this list. This is just a guide. The choice is still on us. It's up for us to know how we could best relate to new people (or even to our dear old friends).

So what then is the point of this matter if this is just a theory and is not applicable to every one and to every situation? Hahaha! I just realized something...

Our differences make us at odds/ at ease with each other. These things either bring us together or tear us apart, which makes adjustment an extreme necessity. As much as we hate CHANGE, we have to deal with it. Changing does not necessarily mean becoming a different person altogether. It simply means adjusting rightfully to a situation as conflict arises.

Truly, change is inevitable and necessary. We just have to make sure that it is done with a legitimate reason, and with prudence. Before making any decision (big or small, short-term or long-term), we should look at both sides of the equation for we might have missed doing something very important (wrong position of the decimal point or an error in multiplication), which could lead us to the wrong solution and final answer. ;D

Hate it or love it. We are born this way...Come one, come all. Let's all make a difference! :)