tRuSt vS. miStRuSt
Trust means enabling other people to take advantage of your vulnerabilities—but expecting that they will not do it. Err…how positive could this be?! Haha! ^_^ Simple as it may seem, trust isn’t something easy to give away 100%. Well, considering the possibilities of getting hurt and being betrayed, who would attempt to risk? However, it is also said that trust is imperative in every relationship as it gives two people the confidence and assurance that they’re being loved. People believe that if there’s no trust, there’s no love. How true could this be?
Trust, for me, is something earned. It’s something that one has to work for. You don’t just trust someone you just knew right? [Certainly. c:] But what about those you know personally, do you trust them completely? [Nah, uh. Maybe.] See, that’s the complexity of the matter. Trust is necessary yet it’s hard to confer. Sustaining someone’s trust is another thing. It’s like maintaining ones blood pressure; keeping it normal and stable. Once you go beyond 140/90 mm Hg, you’re in great peril. Thus, you have to make certain that you keep everything in moderation. A famous quote states: “Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” The above stated quote underscores the value of trust in a relationship. If both parties keep doubting each other (which implies a lack of trust), then most likely they’d end up in dispute. The often this cycle recurs, the chances of breaking up upsurges.
Trust is when you expose your vulnerabilities to people, believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Yet it has limits. Trusting doesn’t mean disregarding the truth seen with both eyes. Instead, it means taking facts as is, setting aside the past or whatever biases you may associate with it. =) Both (gaining ones trust and keeping it) are hard to do but it’s definitely worth every ounce of sweat!
Trust, for me, is something earned. It’s something that one has to work for. You don’t just trust someone you just knew right? [Certainly. c:] But what about those you know personally, do you trust them completely? [Nah, uh. Maybe.] See, that’s the complexity of the matter. Trust is necessary yet it’s hard to confer. Sustaining someone’s trust is another thing. It’s like maintaining ones blood pressure; keeping it normal and stable. Once you go beyond 140/90 mm Hg, you’re in great peril. Thus, you have to make certain that you keep everything in moderation. A famous quote states: “Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” The above stated quote underscores the value of trust in a relationship. If both parties keep doubting each other (which implies a lack of trust), then most likely they’d end up in dispute. The often this cycle recurs, the chances of breaking up upsurges.
Trust is when you expose your vulnerabilities to people, believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Yet it has limits. Trusting doesn’t mean disregarding the truth seen with both eyes. Instead, it means taking facts as is, setting aside the past or whatever biases you may associate with it. =) Both (gaining ones trust and keeping it) are hard to do but it’s definitely worth every ounce of sweat!
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